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Each of us has within us a powerful drive to understand ourselves and to know who we are and, from an early age we instinctively make statements beginning with the phrase I am. You may have observed your little girl using mum鈥檚 make-up and then looking in the mirror and saying 鈥淚 am beautiful.鈥� You may have noticed that when your child dresses up as a superhero they make statements like 鈥淚 am strong.鈥� Or perhaps sadly, you may have heard your child say 鈥淚 am dumb鈥� when they have felt defeated in their learning.

Think about the different emotions that are stirred by those last two statements; 鈥淚 am strong鈥� vs 鈥淚 am dumb.鈥� 鈥淚 am鈥� statements are powerful and how we finish them impacts our emotions, attitudes and approaches to life, and ultimately plays a significant role in identity formation. In fact, 鈥淚 am鈥� are two of the most important words because what we put after them can shape our reality.

Often though, we don鈥檛 finish our 鈥淚 am鈥� statements accurately, rather, we take a moment in time or isolate one part of ourself to finish the sentence. For example, just because I can run doesn鈥檛 mean I can lay claim to the statement 鈥淚 am an athlete.鈥� And just because at a previous school I was given the title 鈥淚T Coordinator鈥� does not mean 鈥淚 am an IT whizz.鈥� The danger in finishing our 鈥淚 am鈥� statements this way is that we are coming to conclusions about who we are without realizing that we only see a tiny part of the big picture of our lives. Using what we do, what we wear, the titles we have been given, the way we look, or what another person says about us as a reference point for finishing 鈥淚 am鈥� statements is problematic because they do not capture the complete picture of who we are.

The good news for us and the young people that are in our care is that when we know God and enjoy a relationship with Him, we learn how to finish these 鈥淚 am鈥� statements in ways that are accurate and provide us with purpose, meaning, and confidence for the whole of our life. You see, God, our Maker, has the complete picture of who we are. He knows the beginning from the end. He was there in the beginning and he promises to be with us every day. He has the complete picture of who we are, where we fit in, and what our purpose is.

So, what if we chose to hold more tightly to what God says about us and used what He says about us to finish our 鈥淚 am鈥� statements? What if we challenged what others say about us, remembering that they don鈥檛 have the complete picture? What if we challenged what we say about ourselves in those darker moments, remembering that we don鈥檛 have the complete picture?

What if when we feel unloved, we remembered that God says 鈥淚 love you鈥� and we declared 鈥淚 am loved.鈥� How would that change our perspective? What if when we were restless and anxious, we remembered that God says He will never leave us so we can claim 鈥淚 am protected.鈥� What if when others treated you like you were worthless you remembered that God says 鈥淚 gave my Son Jesus鈥� life for you鈥� and you said 鈥淚 am precious.鈥�

I relish the privilege that we have at the College every day to orientate young people to what God says about them so that they can finish their 鈥淚 am鈥� statements truthfully. It is these identity forming statements that provide direction, meaning, and purpose in life. I encourage you, in that most crucial role you play as parents to seize every opportunity available to you to point your child to what God says about them.

Felicity Marlow
Principal